Yesterday night couple of friends gathered at out home. We focused on the broken tile syndrome. This concept is based on the fact that our eyes may be more focused on a broken or missing tile in some great mosaic versus appreciating the larger work. Oftentimes we do the same in our lives – focus on what’s missing versus what we do have.
Once you determine your broken or missing tiles, then what? Dennis Prager, in his book, Happiness Is A Serious Problem, tells us that we have three options: Get It, Forget It or Replace It.
Get It I shared with the group that one of my missing tiles is that I have a need to write a book(a cookery book or say owning a restau). It is something I have postponed for many years and it continues to weigh on me. This is something I feel very strongly that I need to do. Whether or not it gets published is not important, but the mere fact that I can complete it and make the effort to get it published is enough. I already have the idea in place, however it calls for action
Forget It I lost my grandparents parents(maternal as well as paternal)couple of years ago. There is nothing I can do to bring them back, so although those are two huge(maternal 1 and paternal 1) missing tiles in my life, I have to forget it. Not to forget them. I never will. I have come to accept that the best I can do is to carry their legacy forward, to honor their memories and if I can be half the woman my grandmom(maternal) was nothing like it...
Replace It John Walsh, the host of America’s Most Wanted, came into his role in finding criminals after his son, Adam, was kidnapped and murdered in Florida. He turned that tragedy into something to help others by creating legislation to protect children and to help law enforcement find criminals.
What we all friends realized is that in talking for 90 minutes or so we learned so much about each other. I hope a number of us identified some broken tiles and will find the time to determine how best to address them to help increase our happiness. May you think about your own broken tiles and do the same.
Stay Happy My Friends!
