There was a comment from a few weeks back which suggested that although we should strive to be happy, how do we cope with situations which really do bring unhappiness into our lives? When ever amongst friends we discuss on happiness, this is one of the first items which I have spoken about; therefore, this question is very important.
We have to be genuine. When you feel love, anger, sadness, frustration, etc., you should show your true feelings. We are human and need to act as such. The caveat is that you should be very focused on who gets to see this side of you. If someone upsets you, then you should certainly let them see or know your feelings assuming that you truly have been wronged. If you had had a tough day you should not ‘take it out’ with the check-out person at your local grocery store, for example. They are completely innocent, don’t know you or your problems and ultimately don’t care. For the most part, you should reserve sharing you negative feelings with those who know you well and can help you – family and friends primarily. So for all the ‘strangers’ you encounter you act as though everything is fine. When they ask, “How are you?” it is not an open invitation to dump your problems on them. For them, your answer is a very polite “I am doing fine” A word of caution, even family and friends will reach a saturation point if they are always on the receiving end of your negative feelings. Ultimately, we are adults and need to be able to cope with our negative moments in an adult fashion.
On the flip side, if you are experiencing great joy then do make every attempt to infect everyone around you, stranger, friend and family alike!
I was reading an article someone sent me recently from a Magazine. It described how happiness and unhappiness may have some similarities to how an infectious disease spreads. Very interesting. I would suggest we catch the happiness bug and create a contagion and inoculate ourselves against the unhappiness bug!
Stay Happy My Friends!
We have to be genuine. When you feel love, anger, sadness, frustration, etc., you should show your true feelings. We are human and need to act as such. The caveat is that you should be very focused on who gets to see this side of you. If someone upsets you, then you should certainly let them see or know your feelings assuming that you truly have been wronged. If you had had a tough day you should not ‘take it out’ with the check-out person at your local grocery store, for example. They are completely innocent, don’t know you or your problems and ultimately don’t care. For the most part, you should reserve sharing you negative feelings with those who know you well and can help you – family and friends primarily. So for all the ‘strangers’ you encounter you act as though everything is fine. When they ask, “How are you?” it is not an open invitation to dump your problems on them. For them, your answer is a very polite “I am doing fine” A word of caution, even family and friends will reach a saturation point if they are always on the receiving end of your negative feelings. Ultimately, we are adults and need to be able to cope with our negative moments in an adult fashion.
On the flip side, if you are experiencing great joy then do make every attempt to infect everyone around you, stranger, friend and family alike!
I was reading an article someone sent me recently from a Magazine. It described how happiness and unhappiness may have some similarities to how an infectious disease spreads. Very interesting. I would suggest we catch the happiness bug and create a contagion and inoculate ourselves against the unhappiness bug!
Stay Happy My Friends!
